According to Jasper Bergink, the common tendency of individuals is to see happiness as something in the future. One of the main reasons why people are unhappy is that they project happiness on goals they haven’t achieved yet. And often, these goals are conflicting.
As Biswas-Diener, a happiness researcher and consultant contests, the future is an unreliable sources of happiness. The past, not the future, is the source of happiness. The happiest days are behind you. By recalling happy moments of the past, you will be able to recreate moments of happiness, and you will experience them again.
How can we escape from our own expectations about the future?
One of them is by manufactured or ‘synthetic happiness‘, as psychologist Dan Gilbert says. Our life is lived in the now, not in the future. Our aim should be to spent our ‘nows’ – the moment that is easiest to control – in a way that makes us happy. And by doing so, and appreciating the great moments along the way, we both work on a happy future and create a supply of happy memories that we can enjoy again.